Of course, not all relationships start without trust – often the trust has been ruined and therefore it has to be rebuilt again. But sadly, sometimes it’s just far too broken to fix.
If you can move on from broken trust and get it back, that’s brilliant. But it’s not so easy for everyone. No matter how hard you try, those feelings of unease refuse to go away.
Perhaps you don’t even realise you don’t fully trust your partner. You’re so used to feeling a little bit vulnerable that it doesn’t even cross your mind that perhaps not everything is bright on the horizon.
And so, to help you figure out what’s causing that niggling feeling, here are 10 signs you simply don’t trust your partner.
You ask them to prove everything they tell you
If you can’t trust your partner’s word, there’s something very, very wrong in your relationship.
I’m not talking about asking them to prove they didn’t buy a new TV or get a stain on the carpet, but if you’re having to ask them to prove where they were and when because you can’t take their word for it, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.
You’re constantly checking their social media
Whether it’s to check if they’ve been tagged in any new photos with attractive people or whether they’ve checked in somewhere without telling you, you can’t help but look through their social media at least a couple of times a day.
Social media is all-consuming, and because everything’s hidden with a password it’s so easy to drive us crazy if we don’t trust the person using it.
Checking and checking someone’s social media will drive you insane – and often things are easily misconstrued.
You demand their passwords for all of their accounts
Facebook, Twitter, even their email, you name it, you’ve got the password for it. If you’re having to demand your partner’s passwords just so that you can check up on who they’re talking to, your relationship is very, very fragile and isn’t going to last much longer.
You’re intimidated by every attractive person you see
You’re on a night out and you find yourself constantly asking your partner whether they find that girl at the bar attractive, and accusing them of lying when they say no. But they can’t win, because saying ‘yes’ would cause a huge argument.
If you’re intimidated by every attractive person you see, that shows how insecure you are within your relationship. And if you’re feeling this insecure, perhaps you’re not getting all of the attention you need from your partner.
You ask their friends to confirm their whereabouts
If you don’t believe your partner is where they say they are and you feel it necessary to contact one of their friends to confirm their whereabouts, you have nothing within your relationship.
Not just because you don’t trust your partner – but because you’d believe their friends over the one you love.
You often accuse them of things before you know the truth
Perhaps they’ve liked a guy’s photo on social media or had a missed call from an old friend. Immediately, when you have no trust, your mind makes up all of these scenarios that generally are a lot worse than the actual truth.
If you’re believing these scenarios and accusing your partner of them before you’ve even sat down to talk about the issue, how is your relationship ever going to mature?
You get jealous easily
If you find yourself getting jealous within your relationship very easily, that’s a sure sign there’s no trust there.
The bottom line is that if you completely trusted your partner, there’d be nothing to get jealous about. Of course, a little jealousy is natural – but having a tantrum because they said someone else was funny is not okay.
You clock-watch every time they’re out
Your partner’s out with their friends, and you just can’t sit still. You can’t sit down and focus on a book or a film because you’re constantly looking up at the clock in hopes they’re going to return home when they say they will. Time goes so slowly as you watch the arms tick by, and with every hour you begin to doubt more and more that they’re going to stick to their word. The question is: Why are you doubting them?
You’re always looking for comfort from your friends
You’re often talking to your friends about your relationship woes and seeking comfort from them, in hopes of them telling you something is ‘all in your head’.
If you’re always looking for validation from people in order to calm your own worries, you need to confront why you’re worrying, and whether the reason can be fixed.
Things just don’t feel right
If you’ve got a gut feeling that your partner is lying to you, you should confront them or get out of the relationship.
I’m not saying the gut feeling is going to be right, but if you find it eating you up most of the time, is it worth sticking around? Is that nauseating feeling really worth it over feelings of total trust?
Regardless of whether the feeling is right or not, if it is, leaving the relationship will give you a lucky escape from your partner. And if it’s wrong, it’ll hopefully inspire you to confront your insecurities so that they don’t affect any future relationships.
Read more: http://metro.co.uk/2017/09/20/10-sure-signs-you-simply-dont-trust-your-partner-6938753/#ixzz4tD4LSwpX